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Holiday Season
5 years, 6 months ago Posted in: Gift Buying Stress, Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress 0

As I have mentioned earlier, the holidays have become about shopping and buying gifts, and trying not to go into debt over gift giving.

Here are some helpful way to avoid breaking the bank (and maybe cut back the stress and anxiety during the holidays.

1. For the adults, you can draw names, put a maximum dollar amount on what can be spent, bake your gifts, or skip the gift giving all together and make the being together the gift. What a novel idea since the holidays are about being with loved ones!

2. Kids wish lists start getting prepared in October, so by the time they are delivered, the list is longer than the paper they wrote for homework in school.

Pick a few items off the list they really want-remember it is about quality, not quantity.

As a child we had some unbelievable holidays, with mounds of presents for my siblings and me (I remember them because I have the family photos, not because I remember what we got), and what I remember most is baking cookies with my Mom, Sister and Grandma (who was forever telling me there would be no cookies if I kept eating so much dough who needs cookies when you have dough? Still the same to this day!)

As we get caught up in the holiday buying frenzy, try to remember the holidays are not about who can buy the most, get the most or have the most
expensive present. The holidays are about being with people you love and care about the most.

What will be remembered most about the gifts received this holiday season, will not be the gifts at all, but the memories created with friends and family that will live on for years to come. As I write regarding having the holidays be about friends and family, I am very much aware of how stressful the holidays can be for that exact reason. Next I will give some tips about how to survive the holidays with family and family dynamics.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress, Stress Relief, Traveling Tips 0

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Off to the airport you go!

Or…

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Pack up your car so you can go!

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and the next couple of weeks will fly by so start preparing for any travel now.

Just the thought of going to the airport or loading up your car so you can travel on the roads during the busiest time of year, can create or
increase anxiety. Here are a few hints that can help decrease stress and increase the chances of having a more enjoyable travel experience.

1. Prior to packing, either have a list of the things you want and need to bring or put then in a pile or stack somewhere so when you are ready to
pack, it is just a matter of putting your things in a suitcase or travel bag.

It can be frustrating when you spend a great deal of time planning your travels, only to arrive in North Dakota without your jacket, or you have
forgotten your glasses, or better yet the gifts you have spent time shopping for (after you made a budget ) and wrapping are sitting at home on the
kitchen counter.

2. Whether you are driving (or going by bus or train) or flying, two of the most helpful hints are to leave extra above and beyond time to prepare
for you departure. In addition, leave extra time for traveling to your departure destination. If your schedule allows it, try to plan (for those of you
driving) for traffic. It is not much fun to miss the holidays because you are sitting on I-75 in a traffic jam.

3. This one will be the most difficult… Be Patient. If you plan on a little frustration, aggravation, and traffic when and if it happens, you will be
prepared for it.

Try and enjoy the traveling process during the holidays, make it part of
the adventure and remember the most famous question in traveling…

Are we there yet? Safe travels!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress 0

Ready or not here they come!

It is almost Halloween and the start of the holiday season, and increased blood pressure, wallet pinches and upcoming family gatherings.  So take a deep breath and tell yourself you don’t have to get caught up in the holiday season stressors, or at least work toward having less stress than the year before.

One of the things that can help reduce stress is start now with making a list of things you would like/need/want to have completed for the holidays and by what date. Space out your projects so they don’t overwhelm you and take one project at a time. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help with your projects, holidays are about family, friends and loved ones spending time together, whether you are cooking, shopping, decorating, or preparing. As Joe Cocker says, we get by with a little help from our friends. Oh yes we do, especially during the holidays.

So, enjoy the start of the holiday season and work toward having a more enjoyable and less stressful season!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


7 years, 6 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress 0

For some of you the holidays have already begun and for others, you are in the 11th hour. This blog will be short and sweet since many of you are too busy to sit and read much. Even as I say this I know it is much easier said than done….try to stay calm and relaxed. When you are getting stressed from the holiday traffic, whether in stores or on the road, go home! 🙂 This relates back to the quality vs quantity gift giving. I would guess your gift recipients would rather have your blood pressure in range than whatever gift you were out buying.

Here is another piece that is easier said than done…the holidays are going to be whatever they are…try and enjoy them. The less stressed you are the more likely you are to not react to situations, whatever they may be.

Breathe….and have a stress-free holiday!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in Facebook counseling, conflict resolutionstress managementcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


7 years, 6 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress 0

As I have mentioned earlier the holidays are about friends, family and loved ones. What I haven’t mentioned, until now, is that spending time with friends, family and loved ones can be very stressful!

Some way to keep stress down while spending time with family:

– take time out for yourself to relax, read, hike, watch movies, social media toys or whatever rituals you find time for, that are relaxing and enjoyable the other 51 weeks of the year.

– if you are in a relationship and/or have children with you – take time out with them to make memories within the dynamics of your holiday gathering.

– spend some one-on-one time with your family members or friends, it can create closeness and bonding and may even alleviate some stress or tension.

Family dynamics and holidays can be a very complex concept – try being patient, take care of yourself, choose your battles, and stay as stress-free and relaxed as possible. Practice making the choice to enjoy the holidays and family….remember, it’s only for a couple of days.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in Facebook counseling, stress management, career counselingcouples counselingconflict resolution, elder counseling and family counseling.


7 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Gift Buying Stress, Holiday Season, Holiday Stress 0

Gift Giving—Quality vs. Quantity

As I have mentioned earlier, the holidays have become about shopping and buying gifts, and trying not to go into debt over gift giving.
Here are some helpful way to avoid “breaking the bank” (and maybe cut back the stress and anxiety) during the holidays.

1. For the adults, you can draw names, put a maximum dollar amount on what can be spent, bake your gifts, or skip the gift giving all together and make the “being together” the gift. What a novel idea since the holidays are about being with loved ones!

2. Kids “wish lists” start getting prepared in October, so by the time they are delivered, the list is longer than the paper they wrote for homework in school.
-pick a few items off the list they really want-remember it is about quality not quantity

As a child we had some unbelievable holidays, with mounds of presents for my siblings and me ( I remember them because I have the family photos, not because I remember what we got), and what I remember most is baking cookies with my Mom, Sister and Grandma ( who was forever telling me there would be no cookies if I kept eating so much dough…who needs cookies when you have dough? Still the same to this day 🙂 )

As we get caught up in the holiday buying frenzy, try to remember the holidays are not about who can buy the most, get the most or have the most expensive present. The holidays are about being with people you love and care about the most.

What will be remembered most about the “gifts” received this holiday season, will not be the gifts at all, but the memories created with friends and family that will live on for years to come.

As I write about having the holidays be about friends and family, I am very much aware of how stressful the holidays can be for that exact reason. Next I will give some tips about how to “survive” the holidays with family and family dynamics.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolution, career counseling, couples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and Facebook counseling.


7 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Traveling Tips 0

Heigh Ho Heigh Ho
Off to the airport you go…or

Heigh Ho Heigh Ho
pack up your car so you can go

Just the thought of going to the airport or loading up your car so you can travel on the roads during the busiest time of year, can create or increase anxiety.
Here are a few hints that can help decrease stress and increase the chances of having a more enjoyable travel experience.

1. Prior to packing, either have a list of the things you want and need to bring or put then in a pile or stack somewhere so when you are ready to pack, it is just a matter of putting your things in a suitcase or travel bag. It can be frustrating when you spend a great deal of time planning your travels, only to arrive in North Dakota without your jacket, or you have forgotten your glasses, or better yet…the gifts you have spent time shopping for (after you made a budget 🙂 ) and wrapping…are sitting at home on the kitchen counter.

2. Whether you are driving (or going by bus or train) or flying, two of the most helpful hints are to leave extra above and beyond time to prepare for you departure. In addition, leave extra time for traveling to your departure destination. If your schedule allows it, try to plan (for those of you driving) for traffic. It is not much fun to miss the holidays because you are sitting on I-75 in a traffic jam.

3. This one will be the most difficult…Be Patient. If you plan on a little frustration, aggravation, and traffic…when and if it happens, you will be prepared for it.

Try and enjoy the traveling process during the holidays, make it part of the adventure and remember the most famous question in traveling…..

Are we there yet??

Safe travels!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in couples counseling, stress management, career counseling, elder counseling, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling and family counseling.


7 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress 0
The Holidays are upon and all around are signs letting us know ” Tis the Season.”  What exactly does that mean?  The implication is for us to be happy, prosperous, spend time with friends and family and to be healthy, which are wonderful concepts to associate with the holiday season. However, for many it means “Tis the Season” to increase financial strain by spending time in shopping malls trying to find the “perfect” gift for a cousin you have not seen since childhood, or trying to find the “perfect” gift for the person who has everything…Tis the season to buy presents. It also means it is the busiest, and not to mention the most expensive, time of year to be traveling to spend time with friends and/or family (which can be wonderful, stressful or both!). It also means someone will spend a great deal of time in the grocery planning to cook a wonderful meal that takes a week to prepare and cook and 1/2 hour to devour, before heading off to the couch for a nap! Finally, last but not least, the ever looming “New Years Resolution.”

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the holidays but am also aware of how stressful they can become. So, over the next 5 or 6 weeks I will be writing what my sister calls ” Helpful Hints from Helouise” (even though we have NO idea who Helouise is) to help manage some areas of the holidays that may become stressful. I will cover things like budgeting, balancing family time, family dynamics, how to manage stress, how to improve family and friends relationships and thus, enjoy your holidays. Here’s to a less-stressful holiday season!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in couples counseling, stress management, career counseling, elder counseling, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling and family counseling.