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5 years, 9 months ago Posted in: Gift Buying Stress, Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress 0

As I have mentioned earlier, the holidays have become about shopping and buying gifts, and trying not to go into debt over gift giving.

Here are some helpful way to avoid breaking the bank (and maybe cut back the stress and anxiety during the holidays.

1. For the adults, you can draw names, put a maximum dollar amount on what can be spent, bake your gifts, or skip the gift giving all together and make the being together the gift. What a novel idea since the holidays are about being with loved ones!

2. Kids wish lists start getting prepared in October, so by the time they are delivered, the list is longer than the paper they wrote for homework in school.

Pick a few items off the list they really want-remember it is about quality, not quantity.

As a child we had some unbelievable holidays, with mounds of presents for my siblings and me (I remember them because I have the family photos, not because I remember what we got), and what I remember most is baking cookies with my Mom, Sister and Grandma (who was forever telling me there would be no cookies if I kept eating so much dough who needs cookies when you have dough? Still the same to this day!)

As we get caught up in the holiday buying frenzy, try to remember the holidays are not about who can buy the most, get the most or have the most
expensive present. The holidays are about being with people you love and care about the most.

What will be remembered most about the gifts received this holiday season, will not be the gifts at all, but the memories created with friends and family that will live on for years to come. As I write regarding having the holidays be about friends and family, I am very much aware of how stressful the holidays can be for that exact reason. Next I will give some tips about how to survive the holidays with family and family dynamics.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 10 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress, Stress Relief, Traveling Tips 0

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Off to the airport you go!

Or…

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Pack up your car so you can go!

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and the next couple of weeks will fly by so start preparing for any travel now.

Just the thought of going to the airport or loading up your car so you can travel on the roads during the busiest time of year, can create or
increase anxiety. Here are a few hints that can help decrease stress and increase the chances of having a more enjoyable travel experience.

1. Prior to packing, either have a list of the things you want and need to bring or put then in a pile or stack somewhere so when you are ready to
pack, it is just a matter of putting your things in a suitcase or travel bag.

It can be frustrating when you spend a great deal of time planning your travels, only to arrive in North Dakota without your jacket, or you have
forgotten your glasses, or better yet the gifts you have spent time shopping for (after you made a budget ) and wrapping are sitting at home on the
kitchen counter.

2. Whether you are driving (or going by bus or train) or flying, two of the most helpful hints are to leave extra above and beyond time to prepare
for you departure. In addition, leave extra time for traveling to your departure destination. If your schedule allows it, try to plan (for those of you
driving) for traffic. It is not much fun to miss the holidays because you are sitting on I-75 in a traffic jam.

3. This one will be the most difficult… Be Patient. If you plan on a little frustration, aggravation, and traffic when and if it happens, you will be
prepared for it.

Try and enjoy the traveling process during the holidays, make it part of
the adventure and remember the most famous question in traveling…

Are we there yet? Safe travels!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


6 years ago Posted in: Stress, Stress Relief 0

Tis the time of year….

The kids are back in school and from now until the New Year time flies!

Over the next couple of months my “Helpful Hints from Helouise” ( I
borrowed the term from my sister) blogs will cover-managing holiday stress,
family dynamics and staying in the black and out of the red this holiday
shopping season.

Stress management here we come!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Stress 0
No, I am not referring to the song by Queen and Bowie but an overall feel of life right now. I notice all around people are feeling pressurized…find a job (or a better job), figure their relationship out (with some kind of time limit, no matter how long they have been unhappy), perfect New Years resolutions, and suddenly have all the tools and insight to figure their whole life out.
I believe it is the time of year. There are quota/new quarter pressures at work, school, resolutions, a new year and there seems to be an enormous amount of pressure on people. I know this is MUCH easier said than done, but try to breathe and slow down. There is no race, no destination and you may be missing out on the process of the journey. You may say..”yeah, but no one else is _______________ ( fill in the blank)” and to that I would reply…(and oh how this will make my parents proud!)  “If your friends were going to jump off a bridge, does that mean you have to?” For those of you old enough to remember the famous parental answer to everything, it really is great advice. Figure out what works for you (obviously, there are work requirements) and try it. Society often teaches us to keep up with the Jones’s (does any body know who they are? are why are we keeping up with them?) and I know that pressure can be strong.
So, try and take a step back, take a breath, ask yourself what you are in such a hurry to do, and re-evaluate the race you are running.

Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementconflict resolutionFacebook counselingcouples counselingelder counselingfamily counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 11 months ago Posted in: Stress, Stress Relief 0

Whether you are transitioning to a new job, new position at work, job hunting, starting school or college, having kids, thinking about having kids, getting married, getting divorced or are empty-nesters, just to name a few, these are things that can cause or increase stress/anxiety. Change often creates anxiety and one of the most helpful ways to handle stress is with support. Friends, family, support groups, or having a place in your life that feels safe. That safe place can be a friend, partner, spouse, your home, playing or listening to music, a bath, playing sports, or your couch and a blanket. Whatever, or where ever, you feel safe, relaxed and calm, make a “date” with that place as often as possible.

As humans, I believe, we all need a place to feel safe, where we don’t have to be “on”, in-charge or in-control, a place where we can just be ourselves. Since we can only control ourselves, and not our surroundings, taking care of ourselves is very important. Here are some things that will contribute to keeping stress down and bodies healthier:

  • eat healthy
  • get enough sleep
  • exercise
  • have a safe place
  • have an outlet for stress (my friend picked up Karate while going through a divorce..it is a wonderful outlet for stress and emotion release)
  • be around people who make you laugh
  • ask for help and support

and try to remember the only constant is change so being able to manage “change” (which can translate to stress) may be easier and less stressful!


Orlando Counselor Lisa Beilman practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in Facebook counselingcouples counselingconflict resolutionstress managementelder counselingcareer counseling and family counseling.


6 years, 12 months ago Posted in: Dieting Stress, Stress 0

Why, as a society, are we “forever dieting”? We diet for New Years resolutions, holidays, class reunions, weddings and milestone birthdays…just to name a few. One of the reasons we struggle with dieting is that diets are about not being able to have ___________ (fill in the blank), which in turn increases the desire to have that something. Think about when someone says you can’t do something….pretty good motivator huh? Same goes with dieting. You did not even know that you liked something until you CANNOT have it. I am not a dietician or a nutritionist but dieting, historically, does not have a good long term outcome….it does however have a history of creating a yo-yo effect on the scale and the ability to increase stress when the pounds just don’t want to come off! Also, try to stay off the scale as much as possible, remember you are getting healthy not skinny!

What works long term? Lifestyle changes. Getting enough sleep, having an outlet for stress, relaxation, and eating smaller portions of healthier foods. When you have decided to stop dieting and are ready to make some lifestyle changes, remember this….start out slow and steady, it will ensure a greater ability to maintain your lifestyle changes and will decrease the stress and anxiety that is often associated with changes.

If you have any health or medical issues be sure to be under the care of your physician to ensure you are not doing anything that could be harmful….like running too much with a heart condition.

Happy Healthy Eating!


Orlando Counselor Lisa Beilman practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress managementFacebook counselingcouples counselingconflict resolutionelder counselingcareer counseling and family counseling.


7 years ago Posted in: Back To School, Stress 0

No, the holidays are not upon us but back to school is, and all that comes along with it. There are uniforms or school clothes to buy, haircuts, school supplies, meet the teacher, and the list goes on. I have noticed the back to school stress with parents and kids when I am out in stores, there are more tears, raised voices, and quite a few “NO’s”. It can be a stressful time and just remember, next week it will be mostly behind you and the routine of the school year will be upon you. Hang in there and try to keep stress down.


Orlando Counselor Lisa Beilman practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in conflict resolutioncouples counselingcareer counselingstress managementelder counselingFacebook counseling and family counseling.


7 years, 2 months ago Posted in: Caring for Elder Parents, Stress 0

With the economy and people living longer, I hear a great deal about the stressors of caring for elderly parents, while often times still caring for and trying to raise their own children. Have you heard the saying about how it takes an entire village to raise a child? Well, it takes an entire team to care for yourself while caring for your elderly parent(s). Here are some Helpful Hints from Heloise:

  • Have a support system- friends, family, support groups and /or respite care for your parents
  • If necessary, have an attorney/lawyer to help you with any legal issues
  • Take time for yourself- a bath, a book, golf, a night out with friends, a massage, a sporting event or whatever relaxes and rejuvenates you.
  • Practice Patience (and remember that you will forget this over and over again)
  • Get acquainted with your parent’s medical team (releases may need to be signed) it will make caring for your parents much easier

and last but not least:

  • Remember, you are human and this can be very stressful, it’s OK. Try not to be hard on yourself for feeling overwhelmed.

Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in Facebook counselingcouples counselingcareer counselingconflict resolutionelder counselingstress management and family counseling.


7 years, 10 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress 0
The Holidays are upon and all around are signs letting us know ” Tis the Season.”  What exactly does that mean?  The implication is for us to be happy, prosperous, spend time with friends and family and to be healthy, which are wonderful concepts to associate with the holiday season. However, for many it means “Tis the Season” to increase financial strain by spending time in shopping malls trying to find the “perfect” gift for a cousin you have not seen since childhood, or trying to find the “perfect” gift for the person who has everything…Tis the season to buy presents. It also means it is the busiest, and not to mention the most expensive, time of year to be traveling to spend time with friends and/or family (which can be wonderful, stressful or both!). It also means someone will spend a great deal of time in the grocery planning to cook a wonderful meal that takes a week to prepare and cook and 1/2 hour to devour, before heading off to the couch for a nap! Finally, last but not least, the ever looming “New Years Resolution.”

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the holidays but am also aware of how stressful they can become. So, over the next 5 or 6 weeks I will be writing what my sister calls ” Helpful Hints from Helouise” (even though we have NO idea who Helouise is) to help manage some areas of the holidays that may become stressful. I will cover things like budgeting, balancing family time, family dynamics, how to manage stress, how to improve family and friends relationships and thus, enjoy your holidays. Here’s to a less-stressful holiday season!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in couples counseling, stress management, career counseling, elder counseling, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling and family counseling.