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5 years, 5 months ago Posted in: Holiday Stress 0

For some of you the holidays have already begun and for others, you are in
the 11th hour. This blog will be short and sweet since many of you are too
busy to sit and read much. Even as I say this I know it is much easier
said than done. Try to stay calm and relaxed. When you are getting stressed
from the holiday traffic, whether in stores or on the road, go home! This
relates to the quality vs quantity gift giving. I would guess your gift
recipients would rather have your blood pressure in range than whatever gift you were out buying.

Here is another piece that is easier said than done, the holidays are going
to be whatever they are, try and enjoy them. The less stressed you are the
more likely you are to not react to situations, whatever they may be.
Stay calm and decide to go home or not get caught up in the stress…I
know, easy for me to say while I am sitting in front of the computer and not
out shopping…but I had to say the same thing to myself during the holiday
frenzy ūüôā


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 6 months ago Posted in: Gift Buying Stress, Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress 0

As I have mentioned earlier, the holidays have become about shopping and buying gifts, and trying not to go into debt over gift giving.

Here are some helpful way to avoid breaking the bank¬Ě (and maybe cut back the stress¬†and anxiety¬†during the holidays.

1. For the adults, you can draw names, put a maximum dollar amount on what can be spent, bake your gifts, or skip the gift giving all together and make the being together¬Ě the gift. What a novel idea since the holidays are about being with loved ones!

2. Kids wish lists¬Ě start getting prepared in October, so by the time they are delivered, the list is longer than the paper they wrote for homework in school.

Pick a few items off the list they really want-remember it is about quality, not quantity.

As a child we had some unbelievable holidays, with mounds of presents for my siblings and me (I remember them because I have the family photos, not because I remember what we got), and what I remember most is baking cookies with my Mom, Sister and Grandma (who was forever telling me there would be no cookies if I kept eating so much dough who needs cookies when you have dough? Still the same to this day!)

As we get caught up in the holiday buying frenzy, try to remember the holidays are not about who can buy the most, get the most or have the most
expensive present. The holidays are about being with people you love and care about the most.

What will be remembered most about the gifts¬Ě received this holiday season, will not be the gifts at all, but the memories created with friends and family that will live on for years to come. As I write regarding having the holidays be about friends and family, I am very much aware of how stressful the holidays can be for that exact reason. Next I will give some tips about how to survive¬Ě the holidays with family and family dynamics.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress, Stress, Stress Relief, Traveling Tips 0

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Off to the airport you go!

Or…

Heigh Ho, Heigh Ho! Pack up your car so you can go!

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and the next couple of weeks will fly by so start preparing for any travel now.

Just the thought of going to the airport or loading up your car so you can travel on the roads during the busiest time of year, can create or
increase anxiety. Here are a few hints that can help decrease stress and increase the chances of having a more enjoyable travel experience.

1. Prior to packing, either have a list of the things you want and need to bring or put then in a pile or stack somewhere so when you are ready to
pack, it is just a matter of putting your things in a suitcase or travel bag.

It can be frustrating when you spend a great deal of time planning your travels, only to arrive in North Dakota without your jacket, or you have
forgotten your glasses, or better yet the gifts you have spent time shopping for (after you made a budget ) and wrapping are sitting at home on the
kitchen counter.

2. Whether you are driving (or going by bus or train) or flying, two of the most helpful hints are to leave extra above and beyond time to prepare
for you departure. In addition, leave extra time for traveling to your departure destination. If your schedule allows it, try to plan (for those of you
driving) for traffic. It is not much fun to miss the holidays because you are sitting on I-75 in a traffic jam.

3. This one will be the most difficult… Be Patient. If you plan on a little frustration, aggravation, and traffic when and if it happens, you will be
prepared for it.

Try and enjoy the traveling process during the holidays, make it part of
the adventure and remember the most famous question in traveling…

Are we there yet? Safe travels!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 7 months ago Posted in: Holiday Season, Holiday Stress 0

Ready or not here they come!

It is almost Halloween and the start of the holiday season, and increased blood pressure, wallet pinches and upcoming family gatherings. ¬†So take a deep breath and tell yourself you don’t have to get caught up in the holiday season stressors, or at least work toward having less stress than the year before.

One of the things that can help reduce stress is start now with making a list of things you would like/need/want to have completed for the holidays and by what date. Space out your projects so they don’t overwhelm you and take one project at a time. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help with your projects, holidays are about family, friends and loved ones spending time together, whether you are cooking, shopping, decorating, or preparing. As Joe Cocker says, we get by with a little help from our friends. Oh yes we do, especially during the holidays.

So, enjoy the start of the holiday season and work toward having a more enjoyable and less stressful season!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


5 years, 9 months ago Posted in: Stress, Stress Relief 0

Tis the time of year….

The kids are back in school and from now until the New Year time flies!

Over the next couple of months my “Helpful Hints from Helouise” ( I
borrowed the term from my sister) blogs will cover-managing holiday stress,
family dynamics and staying in the black and out of the red this holiday
shopping season.

Stress management here we come!


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 4 months ago Posted in: Stress 0
No, I am not referring to the song by Queen and Bowie but an overall feel of life right now. I notice all around people are feeling pressurized…find a job (or a better job), figure their relationship out (with some kind of time limit, no matter how long they have been unhappy), perfect New Years resolutions, and suddenly have all the tools and insight to figure their whole life out.
I believe it is the time of year. There are quota/new quarter pressures at work, school, resolutions, a new year and there seems to be an enormous amount of pressure on people. I know this is MUCH easier said than done, but try to breathe and slow down. There is no race, no destination and you may be missing out on the process of the journey. You may say..”yeah, but no one else is _______________ ( fill in the blank)” and to that I would reply…(and oh how this will make my parents proud!) ¬†“If your friends were going to jump off a bridge, does that mean you have to?” For those of you old enough to remember the famous parental answer to everything, it really is great advice. Figure out what works for you (obviously, there are work requirements) and try it. Society often teaches us to keep up with the Jones’s (does any body know who they are? are why are we keeping up with them?) and I know that pressure can be strong.
So, try and take a step back, take a breath, ask yourself what you are in such a hurry to do, and re-evaluate the race you are running.

Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 5 months ago Posted in: Finding Balance 0
The election is over, the holidays behind us and the new year upon us….leaves us feeling relieved and somewhat saddened that the hoopla is over. Kids are back to school and most people, who had time off, are back to work full time.
It is somewhat of a “tweener” time of the year in which we are settling into new/old routines and getting back into the swing of things. The holidays are over but they are still lingering around.
Try to find balance in your everyday life while adjusting to the new year. I personally am not a huge fan of New Years resolutions, but for those of you who have made them, keep in mind to practice balance, it is easier to maintain when you are not feeling overwhelmed.
Wishing all of you a year of health, balance and peace!

Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 8 months ago Posted in: Always Tired, Having an Outlet 0

Being that I was in some form of the medical field my whole life prior to being a counselor, my medical brain stays engaged when I am counseling or writing blogs. With that said, if you are feeling tired, run-down and spend part of your day counting the hours until you can get home and lay down or sleep-check with your doctor/psychiatrist (to rule out depression) first to make sure you do not have anything medical contributing to your tiredness. Medical issues can make an impact on emotional well-being.

If all checks out OK at the doctor/psychiatrist you may be tired or exhausted from the inside out. Meaning your thoughts are running through your head like they are trying out for the Olympics. Thoughts about work, family, relationships, health, finances, upcoming holidays…just to name a few. Often times as we lay down to sleep at night, when the world is a bit quieter, and the thoughts kick into high gear and now you are not able to shut them off and go to sleep…even though you have been looking forward to going to bed all day. Again, make sure you are not suffering from depression, which can be helped with medication. Also, having an outlet or physical activities get your body’s hormones and endorphins going which may allow you to sleep better at night and feel more rested in the morning, or whatever time your work/sleep schedule allows.

Try not to ignore what your body is telling you, often times our physical symptoms are our bodies telling us it needs something it is not getting, with medical conditions being the exception, so listen and try giving yourself what you need.


Lisa Beilman is an Orlando Counselor who practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, conflict resolution, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, elder counseling, family counseling and career counseling.


6 years, 8 months ago Posted in: Stress, Stress Relief 0

Whether you are transitioning to a new job, new position at work, job hunting, starting school or college, having kids, thinking about having kids, getting married, getting divorced or are empty-nesters, just to name a few, these are things that can cause or increase stress/anxiety. Change often creates anxiety and one of the most helpful ways to handle stress is with support. Friends, family, support groups, or having a place in your life that feels safe. That safe place can be a friend, partner, spouse, your home, playing or listening to music, a bath, playing sports, or your couch and a blanket. Whatever, or where ever, you feel safe, relaxed and calm, make a “date” with that place as often as possible.

As humans, I believe, we all need a place to feel safe, where we don’t have to be “on”, in-charge or in-control, a place where we can just be ourselves. Since we can only control ourselves, and not our surroundings, taking care of ourselves is very important. Here are some things that will contribute to keeping stress down and bodies healthier:

  • eat healthy
  • get enough sleep
  • exercise
  • have a safe place
  • have an outlet for stress (my friend picked up Karate while going through a divorce..it is a wonderful outlet for stress and emotion release)
  • be around people who make you laugh
  • ask for help and support

and try to remember the only constant is change so being able to manage “change” (which can translate to stress) may be easier and less stressful!


Orlando Counselor Lisa Beilman practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in Facebook counseling, couples counseling, conflict resolution, stress management, elder counseling, career counseling and family counseling.


6 years, 9 months ago Posted in: Dieting Stress, Stress 0

Why, as a society, are we “forever dieting”? We diet for New Years resolutions, holidays, class reunions, weddings and milestone birthdays…just to name a few. One of the reasons we struggle with dieting is that diets are about not being able to have ___________ (fill in the blank), which in turn increases the desire to have that something. Think about when someone says you can’t do something….pretty good motivator huh? Same goes with dieting. You did not even know that you liked something until you CANNOT have it. I am not a dietician or a nutritionist but dieting, historically, does not have a good long term outcome….it does however have a history of creating a yo-yo effect on the scale and the ability to increase stress when the pounds just don’t want to come off! Also, try to stay off the scale as much as possible, remember you are getting healthy not skinny!

What works long term? Lifestyle changes. Getting enough sleep, having an outlet for stress, relaxation, and eating smaller portions of healthier foods. When you have decided to stop dieting and are ready to make some lifestyle changes, remember this….start out slow and steady, it will ensure a greater ability to maintain your lifestyle changes and will decrease the stress and anxiety that is often associated with changes.

If you have any health or medical issues be sure to be under the care of your physician to ensure you are not doing anything that could be harmful….like running too much with a heart condition.

Happy Healthy Eating!


Orlando Counselor Lisa Beilman practices No Judgement Counseling and specializes in stress management, Facebook counseling, couples counseling, conflict resolution, elder counseling, career counseling and family counseling.